find the woman's clitoris
It might seem stupid to some of you, but the clitoris can be quite elusive to men and women who haven't fully explored their partner's or their own body. However, this little "joy button" deserves you making all the efforts to find it and I will give you some info to improve your seeking skills. For starters, you may want to take a look at a basic human sexuality textbook; or you can check out these diagrams from Teenwire.com to orient yourself to male and female pleasure zones.
In order to find a woman's clitoris, what you're going to wanna do is look towards the top of her labia (her pussy lips), but stay below the pubic bone. The clitoris is similar to the head of a man's penis, and even more sensitive. The glans is the nodule you can see when a woman is not aroused and is located between the inner folds of the vulva (labia minora), at the top. The clitoris is just the tip of a branching interior system of erectile tissue that extends towards the vaginal opening. The clit responds to arousal by filling with blood and becoming harder and erect. As a woman becomes aroused, her clitoris will actually swell and retract underneath the clitoral hood, a flap of skin that is part of her labia minora. The size and shape of the clitoris varies from woman to woman, although its location remains pretty consistent.
From Eve's Secrets By Josephine Lowndes Sevely.
Copyright 1987 Josephine Lowndes Sevely
The clit is the focus of pleasure sensation for most woman and is usually the place that, when stimulated, will bring her to orgasm. Although it may not be hard to identify the clitoris, you need to pay close attention to your partner's reactions which can help you figure out if you're touching her in ways that she enjoys. If you're comfortable, talking with your partner is a sure-fire way to find and stimulate her pleasure zones. Ask her to show you her clitoris. Ask her how she likes it to be touched or to show you how she touches it herself. Or you can put her hand on top of yours to guide you. Have fun exploring each other's bodies ??if it's embarrassing, just remember your (and her) knowledge is her pleasure! If in trouble, listen to your partner's reactions and simply ask for directions and guidance.